In my last blog, I wrote about some of the factors that contribute to our low self-esteem and provided some tips on how to combat those feelings.
Below are some additional roadblocks that keep us from feeling our best. Keep a pen and paper handy so that you can write down those that resonate with you and make a plan of action to kick them to the wayside.
LET’S JUMP RIGHT IN!
- Recognize what and who creates a negative reaction in you and steer clear of those triggers
- Stay away from the negative self-talk – stop using words like no/not/don’t/can’t
- Not only should you steer clear of those that are forever judging you but you should also try to catch when you are judging yourself unnecessarily
- Imposter syndrome is alive and well for most of us so instead of saying or feeling like you aren’t good enough, give yourself a chance. Just because you may not have the skills right now, put a plan in place to develop them
- Stop assuming there will be a negative outcome before you even get started – better to try and not succeed the first time than not try at all
- Keep moving forward and take the next step(s) – don’t sabotage yourself by purposefully putting yourself in a position to not succeed
- Don’t blame others for your non-action – take responsibility
- Trying something is not just about the final outcome, it’s also about the journey and the lessons learned along the way. You can always hit the reset button
- Family members’ fear, trauma and biases may be passed down to you and affect the way you think about yourself and how you respond to certain situations
- You are affected not only by the drama you create for yourself but also the drama that you watch unfold from the sidelines because it releases adrenalin in the brain and fulfills you in a negative way
We can think of all the random thoughts running through our mind as monkeys. Some monkeys are our allies and others are not so helpful – they perpetuate the myths we tell about ourselves and feed self doubt. When the monkeys start jumping around, acknowledge them and recognize which thoughts/monkeys are not moving you in a positive direction and push them away – literally visualize them jumping outside of your mind.
If you’d like to discuss ways to manage the roadblocks that are keeping you from being your best self, reach out to me and we will develop a plan of action!
If you’d like to discuss ways to manage the roadblocks that are keeping you from being your best self, reach out to me and we will develop a plan of action!